- Published on Tuesday, 01 May 2012 19:06 01 May 2012
- Written by HANNAH CAWSEY HANNAH CAWSEY
Student says she encountered difficulties in trying to make private school queer-friendly
Calgary private school Rundle College has begun to recognize queer students within the school after denying a 16-year-old student the right to start a Pride Club this academic year. But other students maintain that the denial is simply part of a pattern of policies hindering support for queer students.
Inara Dattadeen, a Grade 10 student at Rundle, wanted to start up the school's first LGBT club for lesbian, gay, bisexual and transgender students in the fall, only to be told by administration staff such a club would ruin the school's reputation.
"The homophobic and transphobic atmosphere created by many students needs to decrease and/or stop completely," Dattadeen said of her reason for wanting to start the club.
"By increasing the amount of awareness and information about the LGBT community, I believe that the school will become more educated and hopefully will become more queer-positive."
However, Rundle College princpal Wayne Schneider insists that there are support structures in place for queer students and that there wasn't a need for a separate club.
He also denied that anyone within the school's administration had said anything about a Pride Club being detrimental to the school's reputation.
"No one said that or even intimated that. That was never part of a conversation," Schneider said.
"We have a large peer support group in the school. We felt that the umbrella of (sexual orientation) came under an already existing club."
Despite turning down the pride club, Schneider says that the school is "very supportive" of diversity, be it queer-related or otherwise.
However, Dattadeen said a LGBT club at Rundle would help her and other students to feel safe, but she said she has made some progress at Rundle College since her pride club was turned down last fall, arranging for Calgary Outlink, a health and support group for Calgary's queer community, to do a presentation at the school.
Administration also allowed "a day of silence" to commemorate LGBT issues this year at the school.
"Their change in attitude this year has created a more positive outlook on this situation and I feel better now that there has been more effective communication and activity between myself, the school counsellor, and the admin," Dattadeen said.
"I don't expect Rundle to change overnight, but over time I hope to educate the school on diversity (specifically sexual diversity) to create a safe space for every student."
Schneider, when asked if Rundle College is a safe place for queer students, said that "we have a very safe and secure building" and added that the building is "psychologically safe."
He also said that he's "not naive to the fact that gays and lesbians" are confronted with issues in society and that it is a much bigger issue than Rundle College, but does feel the school has a responsibility in handling issues, particularly in cases of bullying.
Dattadeen is not the only student who says she has been discriminated against at Rundle College because of her sexual orientation.
D.S., formerly known as G.S., left Rundle in 2011 after being told the school wouldn't recognize her transition from male to female.
She said she was not allowed to wear the school's female uniform, and the school refused to go through her records and change her name and gender.
"The best way to describe why I left Rundle would be because they wouldn't allow me to be me," D.S. said.
D.S. has since transferred to Central Memorial High School, where she said administrators are more supportive, allowing her to register under her preferred name, wear what she wants and is recognized as being female.
While Schneider said that he is forbidden from talking about students specifically, he denied that requests like D.S.'s had ever come his way.
University of Victoria student Sean Sutherland, who graduated from Rundle in 2011 said he is more relaxed in his new school environment after attending a school where he felt he had no support after announcing he was gay.
"The school let me down when it came to supporting my sexuality," Sutherland said. "The topic was never once brought up in any school-related occasions and often felt like it didn't realistically exist in the environment.
"Even when it comes to topics such as bullying, the school refused to acknowledge that it was a major problem for LGBT students. It was a very heterocentric environment that was borderline homophobic."
Sutherland said the majority of his classmates treated him as a "pariah."
"When I first came out I was very alone so when I got bullied I dealt with it by following some self-destructive behaviours. But as time went on I made some trustworthy friends that I could lean on when I got bullied.
"Only on one occasion did a teacher stop an individual from calling me or someone else a 'fag.'"
Sutherland said his biggest regret was that, unlike Dattadeen, he did not try to start an LGBT club before he graduated.
Disclosure: Calgary Journal editor-in-chief Trevor Presiloski also contributed to this piece. Calgary Journal reporter Hannah Cawsey is a former student of Rundle College.
Editor's note: A source's name was removed from this article due to the source receiving ongoing hate messages
I read it long before the flow of comments (assuming from angry parents, let's be real now) but I wanted to share not my opinion about Rundle school but about the story itself.
I feel this was a great testimony of those who felt that an institution failed them. However, others see it as an attempt to shine a 'bad light' on the school entirety. I am sure that happens with most private institutions when they receive so-called "bad press."
They cry it makes them look bad as a whole, when in reality, all it does is shine a public light on a private matter. It is sad when journalists get attacked for sharing a story about those who were in a situation (how dare you say they weren't) and needed an outlet to share. Could there of been different words chosen? Sure. But whose story is this to tell, then, really?
So, kudos for shining a public light on a private institution's matter. We need more of it, whether it ruffles a few hard-hearted feathers.
I'd just like to respond to this comment. This is absolutely untrue. It has been my experience that due to the close-knit nature of private schools - where everyone knows everyone else's business and teachers and students interact on a more frequent basis - psychologically unsafe conditions, although different from those in public schools, very much do exist. In fact, those conditions can be even more insidious because the school community is so small. And here's one thing you don't know about private schools. They can employ whoever they want and there is no independent disciplinary board like the Alberta Teacher's Association to monitor behaviour and objective intervention. So, before you hold Rundle College up as some paragon of safety, you should do your homework. But anyways... this isn't really about the LGBT issue and is another discussion entirely.
Shouldn't this respect go both ways? Yes, society should accept people with different sexual orientations, but why can't homosexual people accept the fact that there will always be people that won't accept them? If these people's comments hurt you that much it's because you're letting them get to you. It's because these people apparently matter to you so much that you're willing to put time into thinking about things they say. You don't need the entire school to accept you to feel safe, if you have one that you know you can count on at anytime it's already enough.
Also, can we just say that sometimes people are picked on for other things too, not just sexual orientation? Colour of skin, parents' profession and what car they drive? Also, just because I'm not friends with someone that homosexual doesn't mean I'm a homophobe. Maybe they're disliked because of their personality, not because they're gay.
I praise this article, great job!